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Coping with anxiety in new situations

Anxiety is an illness I have had from a very young age which I covered until I needed to seek help alongside my depression. New situations are always very difficult to deal with especially if it involves a number of people you don't know, having to wait on others to leave and if it is going to be a long event. Here are my top tips for dealing with these events. They help me but obviously people use different methods but give them a try and let me know how you get on !


  1. For the first half hour to an hour (or however long till you've calmed those big anxiety waves) stay with someone you know and ask them if they know anyone and aid you with meeting a few new people to help you get the ball rolling. You're all there for the same reason so that gives you a start to the conversation. Meeting new people is always easier with someone you know by your side. 
  2. Talk about something you love or know, chances are the person may have similar interests and talking about something you love / know about is easier you wont stumble over words and its easier to think of calming your nerves! 
  3. Have something in your hand, whether it is a drink or a phone e.c.t it gives you something to hold subtly reassuring you that you got this. Its something to fiddle with a little to occupy your hands so your mind can think and calm down.
  4. Locate a safe spot. If at anytime you feel uncomfortable find somewhere where you can go and calm down and that you feel safe. Whether that be outside, a seat in the corner or even going to the loo (even if you don't need to go sometimes its a good excuse for a 5 minute calm down!)
  5. Smile to at least a handful of people you don't have to know them it breaks ice and encourages people to talk and make you more comfortable as the number of people you know will increase. Looking like you wanna run or want the ground to swallow you up will only discourage people to talk or you have people asking you every 5 minutes if you're okay and that's just fucking annoying. 
  6. It's okay to not be okay with interacting. If you're not ready to talk to new people and mingle then don't. Obviously try when you're ready or think you could but don't push yourself to the point you're feeling sick and sweating like the sun is right outside the window.

Hopefully these little tips help you as they have me. I have a wedding to go to next weekend with a lot of people I do not know and I will report back how that went for me as I will be anxious as anything. I don't think I would be this anxious for my own wedding (whenever that may be!)

Rosie X












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